#084 Daily Habits for Parenting Success

Each day practice being the parent of your dreams.

My Top Ten Daily Habits for Parenting Success

  1. Set Your Intention Each Day
    • Last thing before you go to bed, set your intention for the following day.
    • First thing when you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of and commit to your intention.
    • Here’s some examples from my life.
      • Today I will listen with curiosity, patience, and love.
      • Today I will develop awareness around my emotions.
      • Today I will be fun, energetic, and engaged with my children.
      • Today I will learn a new way to connect with my 15 year old son.
  2. Commit to Connection Daily
    • Be 100% committed to connect to your teen.
    • Choose to love your teen.
    • Show them that you love them.
    • Show them that you are confident that they will be okay.
    • Let them know that you trust that EVERYTHING will be okay.
    • Connect with them right where they are.
    • Stay calm, listen, treat your teen with kindness and fairness, and do your best to let them know that you aren’t mad and that you love and care about them.
  3. Embrace the Moment
    • Far too often we are guilty of not being present.
    • Don’t try to avoid the moment.
    • Don’t try to fix, change, or improve it.
    • BE IN THE MOMENT.
    • Be in the moment WITH your teen!
  4. Manage Your Mind
    • I like to use the Self-Coaching Model
    • I also like to use the Be, Do, Have Model.
    • I am starting to get into journaling and writing.
    • Sharing what I’ve learned with others.
  5. Trust Yourself, Your Teen, and the Process
    • This one is HUGE for me this year.
    • Trust will change everything.
    • You are exactly what your teen need, they are exactly what you need and want, and the process you two are experiencing is exactly what you need.
  6. Let Go Of Things Outside of Your Control
    • This is hard, but so powerful.
    • When you hold onto things outside of your control, you lose power and energy.
    • When you let go, you have more power and energy to put towards things within your control.
    • Let go of your teen’s model and manage your own!
  7. Practice, Practice, Practice
    • One of my favorite lessons, and one I came up with myself, is the “Wheel of Time.”
    • When you’re on the top of the wheel, practice and prepare for when you are on the bottom.
    • When you’re on the bottom of the wheel, just keep going and do your best to do what you practiced at the top of the wheel.
    • Life is all about practice and improvement.
    • It doesn’t have to be pretty or perfect.
  8. Be Willing to Be Wrong and/or Make Mistakes
    • One of the things that divides parents and teens is when one or both of them are committed to being “Right!”
    • Be willing to be wrong.
    • Let your teen be “Right!”
    • Be willing to make mistakes.
    • Be the example of what to do when you make mistakes.
  9. Be The Change You Want to See
    • This is one of my favorite saying and teachings.
    • If you want your teen to be something else, YOU Be that change!
    • If you want your teen to be more confident, YOU Be more confident in both your teen and yourself.
  10. Play to Your Strengths
    • Last but not least, play to your strengths.
    • Yes, you have weaknesses, and if you’re listening to this podcast you probably want to address your weaknesses, but trust your strengths.
    • God gave you strengths that are unique to you.
    • Trust them and use them!

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#083 “TRUST” My Word For 2022

#083 “TRUST” My Word For 2022

One of the things that I’ve coached on the most in the first week of 2022 is TRUST. Fortunately, this is my word for 2022.

Why Pick A Word for The Year?

I’ve seen people pick a word for the year in the past.

One of my goals for this year is to accomplish more by doing less, and picking one word seems like doing LESS but more effective than setting a bunch of goals.

I know we’re just starting out the year, but I already like the focus of having just one word.

Why Is Trust Important To Me?

One of the reasons that I’ve chosen “TRUST” as my word of 2022 is because I often catch myself not trusting myself and others.

One of the things that I’ve found is that the more I trust myself, the more my business grows.

Another thing I’ve found is that the more I trust others, the better I feel.

I would rather trust people than distrust them. I like how it feels better than distrust.

So this year as a parent, I’m committing to trust myself. I’m trusting that I am exactly the parent that my children need. I’m trusting that my best is good enough. I’m trusting that my instincts are there to serve me.

I’m choosing to trust my family because I like how I feel when I trust them. I’m choosing to trust that my teen is capable of overcoming anything!

I’m choosing to trust that EVERYTHING always has been, is, and will be okay!

How Does Trust Impact Your Life?

If you’re like most parents of teens, you’ve probably found yourself having a hard time trusting your teen. It’s easy to distrust your teen, but who does that affect the most?

Most of the parents that I coach on this report that when they distrust their teen, they feel skeptical, distrustful, and anxious/worried.

The lack of trust changes how you feel, which changes how you parent.

Most of the parents that I’ve coached on this report that when they at least want to trust their teen, they feel more love and compassion towards their teen.

When parents are actually able to choose to trust their teens, they report feeling more confident and empowered.

Would you rather parent from the emotions of skepticism, distrust, fear, and worry or from compassion, love, and confidence.

When you embrace trust, you will be able to let go of things that are actually outside of your control.

I want to invite you to practice trusting that your teen is doing their very best!

In fact, imagine that you actually believed that. How would you feel?

Trust it!

I promise, your teen IS doing their very best!

Trust Is a Powerful Choice

Trust is a choice.

I get it. It can be a hard choice to make. It’s easy to choose to distrust someone, even yourself.

But look at it this way. Whether you trust or distrust someone ONLY affects YOU!

Choosing not to trust someone changes how you feel towards that person.

I choose to trust that everyone is doing their best.

When someone lies to me, this trust helps me have more compassion towards them.

It doesn’t mean that I now let them walk all over me. I still set and uphold boundaries to protect myself, but I choose to trust that when they break or cross those boundaries, it’s only because it’s the best that they can do.

When I know someone will break a boundary, I still trust them. I trust that they are doing their best and that they will probably break the boundary. I trust that I can handle that situation to the best of my ability and that it will all be okay.

Choose To Trust Yourself

When I first started my business, I didn’t trust myself.

I delayed starting my podcast because I didn’t trust that I had anything worth saying.

I delayed getting certified as a life coach because I didn’t trust that I would be good enough.

If you’ve delayed joining the Firmly Founded Parent membership, it’s probably due to a lack of trust with yourself.

I get it. I used to not trust that I could change and improve.

I want to invite you to trust yourself.

Trust your ability to grow.

Trust that I can help you!

Choose to trust!

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#083 “TRUST” My Word For 2022

#065 How to be the hero in your relationships!

When you position yourself as the learner, it changes how you interact with your teen!

“That is what learning is. You suddenly understand something you’ve understood all your life, but in a new way.”
~ Doris Lessing

Principles of Being a Relationship Hero

#1 Be 100% Responsible for YOUR Relationship with Them

  • If you’re like most people, you’ve blamed your relationship on the other person in the relationship.
    • “If my teen would . . . “
    • “If they would start . . . “
  • You are responsible for how you feel towards the other person in your relationship.
  • Relationsponsibility (Joey’s made up word)

#2 Relationship Hero vs Relationship Victim

  • Victims and sidekicks have to rely on somebody else.
  • Save yourself in the relationship.

#3 Be the Change You Want to See

  • Want your teen to be more confident? You start by BEing more confident.
  • Want your teen to be more respectful, You start by BEing more respectful.

#4 Your Relationships are a Reflection of Your Relationship with Yourself

  • Want a better relationship with your teen? Improve your relationship with yourself.
  • This may mean that you will need to change some of your self-talk, which will impact how you start talking with your teen.

#5 How YOU Think about Them, How YOU Think about Yourself, and How YOU Think they think.

  • How you think about YOURSELF in the relationship.
  • How you think about THEM in the relationship.
  • How you think THEY think about YOU in the relationship

Call to ACTION!

My BETA Impact Parenting Program is now live, and the doors are closed . . .

. . . BUT . . .

. . . If you want to take your parenting to the next level, you can still join the Firmly Founded Parent.

Now that my Impact Parenting Program is up and running, we’re going to be revamping and improving the Firmly Founded Parent, and I want you to join us to make it the best monthly parenting membership EVER!

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#083 “TRUST” My Word For 2022

#064 What can You Learn from Your Child?

When you position yourself as the learner, it changes how you interact with your teen!

“That is what learning is. You suddenly understand something you’ve understood all your life, but in a new way.”
~ Doris Lessing

Choose to Love!

What a pleasure to interview Bonnie Lyman from Bonnie Lyman Coaching!

When I interview people, I like it to be natural and unscripted. So, to be completely transparent, I don’t plan out my interviews, which makes it harder to make show notes.

So, if you want to get all of the amazing teachings that Bonnie shared, make sure that you listen to this episode. These show notes don’t do it justice.

I love that she taught us that you have to CHOOSE LOVE! I think that since loving others comes so naturally, we forget that sometimes we need to intentionally choose to love some people in our lives.

Especially when our teens are challenging our beliefs and expectations, it can be hard to love. That is when it is powerful to remember that YOU have the power to choose love!

Loving Your Children Starts with Loving Yourself!

Your relationships with your teens are a reflection of your relationship with yourself! If you want a better relationship with your teen, story working on your relationship with yourself.

I’ve seen this show up in so many ways for parents and teens.

Want to love your teen more? Then love yourself more!

Want to trust your teen more? Trust yourself more.

Every relationship you have is a reflection of your own inner relationship with yourself.

Bonnie talked about inviting clients to find 5 things that they like about themselves every day. This is a powerful exercise. I invite you to do this. If you struggle with this, come join our parenting membership, The Firmly Founded Parent. Inside this group, you will learn how to really love and trust yourself, and your teen, and how to start parenting with confidence.

What Can You Learn From Your Teen?

This is one of my latest kicks. What can YOU learn from your teen? What are they trying to teach YOU?

When you position yourself as the learner, it changes the dynamic of your relationship. It helps you see your teen from a different perspective. It allows your teen to have a powerful impact on your life as an equal, rather than as a lesser person because they’re not an adult, or because they are your child.

I’ve been doing this work in my own life right now, and it is A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!!!!

It completely changes how I see my teen.

When I ask, “What can I learn from him?” I start to see him as someone with SO much wisdom, someone I can trust.

And guess what? . . .

I ACTUALLY LEARN FROM HIM!

He’s helped me learn a massive amount of patience. He’s helped me learn that I don’t know as much as I think I know. He’s helped me understand that just because I was a teen, doesn’t mean that I understand what it’s like to be a teen today. He’s helped me learn that I am at my best as a dad when I am learning and growing myself. He’s helped me learn that I want to be more like him in more ways than I previously realized.

Seriously, try positioning yourself as the learner in the relationship with your teen.

Call to ACTION!

My BETA Impact Parenting Program is now live, and the doors are closed . . .

. . . BUT . . .

. . . If you want to take your parenting to the next level, you can still join the Firmly Founded Parent.

Now that my Impact Parenting Program is up and running, we’re going to be revamping and improving the Firmly Founded Parent, and I want you to join us to make it the best monthly parenting membership EVER!

Join TODAY!!