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by Ben | Dec 17, 2020 | Podcast
When you get clear about your future, your future-self will become a mentor and a guide. They will help you take action with a future focus, in a way that builds your dream future.
“Assure me that I yet may change these shadows you have shown me by an altered life! […] I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. […] I will not shut out the lessons that they teach.”
~ Scrooge speaking to the Ghost of Christmas Yet To Come, A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens.
A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens
I read this book every year.
I LOVE IT!
It teaches me valuable lessons about my life and how I want to inturpret my past, present, and future.
It helps me be more intentional in the way that I live and the things that I value!
I want to be the best parent that I can be. I know I’m not perfect, but this book helps me learn from my past, embrace the present, and work towards the future of my dreams.
What is your future?
Your future-self only exists in your imagination.
Your future is not better than your present or your past.
Your future-self can be a guide and mentor. When we focus on our future, that focus can give us direction in the present and in difficult moments.
The better we get to know our future-self, the more we live in alignment with who we want to become.
Live from “What’s possible?”
Too many times we define ourselves by our past mistakes and struggles. It’s much more powerful to define yourself by your potential and possibilities.
Your future-self is YOU! Your future-self is the combination of your past, present, and future.
Everything from your past is connected to your future.
You own your future. You get to create it exactly how you want it. You are the only person who knows what you want.
How to use your future-self as a mentor and guide!
We want to embrace the power of our future-self by exploring who we would be at the future point of our goals and dreams. What would we think, feel, and do?
By doing this, your future-self can become a guide and mentor in your present lives. You can receive direction and clarity from seeing what your dream future looks like and who you become.
One of the common pitfall that I see parents and their teens get caught in is letting their past mistakes and struggles define them. As parents, we do this to our teens. Our teens follow our examples and do it back to us. And then, we do it to ourselves. We never quite let go of the past or intentionally define it for ourselves.
Explore your future and what you would like it to look like. Get curious about your potential and your future possibilities.
Once you’ve explored your potential, get clear on some dreams and desires. What would it take on your part to make it a reality? Imagine your future-self having accomplished those dreams. What did they have to do? Who did they become to accomplish those dreams?
What would the you that has already accomplished your dreams and goals do? What would they feel? What would they think about?
Now, start living your life with that future focus. Keep your future in your sights. Have your future possibilities drive your actions, as a parent and simply as a human being.
The clearer you get on what you would like your future to look like, the better you understand who you would have to be to live that future, the easier it is to set goals.
Live in the present!
“The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.”
~Thomas S. Monson
You can only change the future by living in the present. In A Christmas Carol we see how Scrooge starts living differently. He showed up from day to day.
He was willing to be laughed at and judged by others.
He was changing for himself and for his future possibilities.
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by Ben | Dec 10, 2020 | Podcast
We cannot change the past, and we can do nothing from the future. All our power is in the present. Learn from the past, look to the future, and take advantage of the present.
“Spirit,” said Scrooge, with an interest he had never felt before, “tell me if Tiny Tim will live.”
“I see a vacant seat,” replied the Ghost, “in the poor chimney-corner, and a crutch without an owner, carefully preserved. If these shadows remain unaltered by the Future, the child will die.'”
~ Scrooge and the Ghost of Christmas Present, A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens.
A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens
I read this book every year.
I LOVE IT!
It teaches me valuable lessons about my life and how I want to inturpret my past, present, and future.
It helps me be more intentional in the way that I live and the things that I value!
I want to be the best parent that I can be. I know I’m not perfect, but this book helps me learn from my past, embrace the present, and work towards the future of my dreams.
What is your present?
This is where you have power and control.
What you think about your past or your future is in the present. You have the power to control how you will think about your past and future from now on. What you currently think and believe creates how you feel and act, which determines your current reality and results.
We are creating our future right now in the present by the way we think, feel, and behave.
How you feel in regards to your past or future is determined by what you think in the present.
Your results have been created by beliefs, feelings, and actions. Your present-self is a reflection of what you currently think and feel.
Many of your present patterns and habits have been formed in your past and carried into your present life. Without intention, these habits will most likely carry over into your future as well.
The present is a powerful place to explore your current results and how you are creating those.
What is your present-self creating for your future-self?
Where are you going?
We can look at our present habits and patterns and look towards the future and see what our future results will likely be if the present habits patterns go unchanged.
When we focus on our past and define ourselves by our past, we feel regret.
When we focus the future of our dreams and define ourselves by our potential, we feel hope and empowered.
Identify some of your top patterns and habits. Where are they taking you?
Embrace the power of your present-self, and Take Action!
Too many of us are waiting to make a change until . . .
. . . some unspecified future time.
The time is NOW!
You have the power to change.
We want to embrace the power of the present moment, the here and now, and take actions that will lead to the future of our dreams.
We want to recognize the patterns that exist in our present-selves and explore whether or not they lead us to our future self.
Special Gift for YOU!
As I mentioned in the Thanksgiving episode, my birthday was last month, and I LOVE to celebrate the holidays. I love Christmas and the whole holiday season!
I want to offer you a special gift!
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Space is limited, and it’s first come first serve.
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by Ben | Dec 3, 2020 | Podcast
What impact does your past have on your present life? What impact does it have on your future? If you’re not careful, your past can work against you!
“‘These are but shadows of the things that have been,” said the ghost. “They have no consciousness of us.'”
~ The Ghost of Christmas Past, A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens.
A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens
I read this book every year.
I LOVE IT!
It teaches me valuable lessons about my life and how I want to inturpret my past, present, and future.
It helps me be more intentional in the way that I live and the things that I value!
I want to be the best parent that I can be. I know I’m not perfect, but this book helps me learn from my past, embrace the present, and work towards the future of my dreams.
What is your past?
Your past self only exists in your mind in the form of memories.
All those moments in the past that you are proud of, or maybe a little ashamed of, only exist in memory form.
You get to decide what your past means in your life. You get to define how your past influences your present. You get to decide the story that you tell about your past.
Your past self has created your current patterns, habits, and circumstances. Your past-self did the very best that they could! They did exactly what they needed to do to help you be who you are today.
Your past-self does not control your present-self, but it does have an impact on both your present and your future.
Most people are not intentional about the impact that their past has on their present lives.
Most people never stop to think about how they think and feel about their past, or what they let their past mean in their lives.
Nobody remembers all of their past. Most people have a few pivotal moments throughout their past that they hang on to. They give these moments meaning in their present lives, both good and bad. Unfortunately, they usually give their past meaning with no intention.
They become victims to their past as they continue to be driven by their thoughts, beliefs, and emotions from and about their past. They let the patterns of their past extend, unchecked, into their future.
What does your past mean to you?
What you think about your past will determine how you feel about your past. How you feel about your past will influence how you act and behave in the present, which will then create your future.
Often times we let our past determine who we are without defining our past for ourselves.
For example, in my past, I accidentally lit my school bus on fire with some friends. For a long time, I thought that my past made me a bad person. I felt shame and embarrassment, which influenced my behaviors, which resulted in a lack of confidence in myself.
Now that I make it a point to define my own past, I am empowered by it. Lighting the school bus on fire is now nothing more than an experience that taught me valuable lessons. It’s a fun story to show people that you can make HUGE mistakes and recover from them. It’s a tool that I use to connect with people. At the time I felt hopeless and worthless. I can still remember that. It helps me connect with and understand teens and parents who currently feel hopeless and worthless.
Believe it or not, your past, even the parts you are most ashamed of, connects you to the future of your dreams. It’s up to YOU to make the connection.
Define and Embrace Your Past.
Become aware of the impact that our past has on your life.
Explore and see what patterns and habits have carried into our present life.
Once we become aware of this, we can intentionally define the meaning of our past, and the impact that it has on our lives. We can start to appreciate the past for everything it has done and created for us, and we can let go of the things that are no longer serving us.
Special Gift for YOU!
As I mentioned in the last episode, my birthday was last month, and I LOVE to celebrate the holidays. I love Christmas and the whole holiday season!
I want to offer you a special gift!
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