When you position yourself as the learner, it changes how you interact with your teen!
“That is what learning is. You suddenly understand something you’ve understood all your life, but in a new way.”
~ Doris Lessing
Choose to Love!
What a pleasure to interview Bonnie Lyman from Bonnie Lyman Coaching!
When I interview people, I like it to be natural and unscripted. So, to be completely transparent, I don’t plan out my interviews, which makes it harder to make show notes.
So, if you want to get all of the amazing teachings that Bonnie shared, make sure that you listen to this episode. These show notes don’t do it justice.
I love that she taught us that you have to CHOOSE LOVE! I think that since loving others comes so naturally, we forget that sometimes we need to intentionally choose to love some people in our lives.
Especially when our teens are challenging our beliefs and expectations, it can be hard to love. That is when it is powerful to remember that YOU have the power to choose love!
Loving Your Children Starts with Loving Yourself!
Your relationships with your teens are a reflection of your relationship with yourself! If you want a better relationship with your teen, story working on your relationship with yourself.
I’ve seen this show up in so many ways for parents and teens.
Want to love your teen more? Then love yourself more!
Want to trust your teen more? Trust yourself more.
Every relationship you have is a reflection of your own inner relationship with yourself.
Bonnie talked about inviting clients to find 5 things that they like about themselves every day. This is a powerful exercise. I invite you to do this. If you struggle with this, come join our parenting membership, The Firmly Founded Parent. Inside this group, you will learn how to really love and trust yourself, and your teen, and how to start parenting with confidence.
What Can You Learn From Your Teen?
This is one of my latest kicks. What can YOU learn from your teen? What are they trying to teach YOU?
When you position yourself as the learner, it changes the dynamic of your relationship. It helps you see your teen from a different perspective. It allows your teen to have a powerful impact on your life as an equal, rather than as a lesser person because they’re not an adult, or because they are your child.
I’ve been doing this work in my own life right now, and it is A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!!!!
It completely changes how I see my teen.
When I ask, “What can I learn from him?” I start to see him as someone with SO much wisdom, someone I can trust.
And guess what? . . .
I ACTUALLY LEARN FROM HIM!
He’s helped me learn a massive amount of patience. He’s helped me learn that I don’t know as much as I think I know. He’s helped me understand that just because I was a teen, doesn’t mean that I understand what it’s like to be a teen today. He’s helped me learn that I am at my best as a dad when I am learning and growing myself. He’s helped me learn that I want to be more like him in more ways than I previously realized.
Seriously, try positioning yourself as the learner in the relationship with your teen.
Call to ACTION!
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. . . BUT . . .
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